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Online Dating | To Do Or Not To Do

First dates are often a little stressful, especially when online dating.. You generally don’t know the person very well so you may be apprehensive as to whether or not you’ll get along, what to talk about, their impression of you etc. This is the case for a date set up both offline and online. The problem is, if you don’t make a good first impression, even if it’s due to being too shy or insecure, then you may not get a second date and the chance to show your real self. This can be really hurtful, especially if you really liked the person. So you have to make a good first impression. With a little thought and planning, and sometimes practice, everything should go fine on your fist online date.

Make your date feel comfortable.

Remember that you are both there to have a good time. You don’t have ‘perform’ and be funny or cute. Just be yourself. If you are comfortable and natural then your date is likely to feel at ease. Obviously you want to try to be interesting with the stories you tell and you should think a little about what you are going to say in advance, but you don’t want to sound rehearsed. Be flexible and listed to the response and comments of your date. You don’t want to sit there with nothing to say so think of a few funny anecdotes which you can recount or other things you can talk about such as events you are been to or would like to go to. Another way to make your date feel comfortable is to listen carefully to what they are saying and to ask relevant questions. Be sincere though, don’t ask questions if you are really not interested, instead ask them about something else.

Keep in mind your date may be nervous too.

Don’t be so self absorbed that all you can think about is how you are doing, do they like you, should you have said that etc. Think about how they are feeling. They are most likely just as, if not more nervous than you, especially if they are shy or if this is their first online date. Try to be aware of how they feel and do your best to comfort them if they appear anxious, although you don’t want to bring attention to their shyness or nervousness as that could just make them feel worse. Hopefully you won’t have to work too hard during the date and the conversation will flow naturally but be prepared anyway. You have obviously had some contact already as you took interest in each others profile so you should be able to chat about something.

Plan to do something.

Rather than go on a date where you just sit and talk, which can be difficult for shy people on a first date, try to do something fun. A first date doesn’t have to be dinner or a movie. There are many other things you can do. If you are interested in art you may want to go to an art gallery. This way you can talk about the art  if you run out of things to say. It may seem a little retro but you could go bowling. The game will take your mind off any awkward pauses. If you both like a particular band you could go see them live. You could then talk about the concert after the date. First dates don’t have to intimidating or stressful, even with online dating. There is obviously something you like about each other so focus on that.

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