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Break Up With Your Online Date

There’s not much difference with online dating and dating someone you met offline. There usually comes a time when you have to break up with your date. Whether you do the breaking up or they do, it’s never easy. Part of the problem with online dating is that you know that there is always another date out there and within easy reach. In fact, most online daters are in contact with more than one person at a time so it’s quite easy to decide to break up with someone knowing you have other options.

Once you discover that your relationship with your online date isn’t going anywhere, you need to break up with them. There is no point in dragging it on. If you are on a first date and you know it’s not going to work then you should be honest and tell them that is the case. Don’t give them the impression that you want to see them again. Although this may seem a harsh thing to do, it will only be worse if you carry on seeing them and they develop feelings for you or get there hopes up. That could lead to real disappointment, hurt, and anger.

When you do break up with your date, be honest but not mean. Don’t tell them what you think is wrong with them rather put the focus on yourself. Tell them you don’t feel as though there is any connection. Thank them for the date and their time but make it clear that you won’t be calling or emailing them again. This way you both know where you stand and the other party won’t be waiting by the phone, or computer, to hear from you.

Some people think if the date doesn’t work out then there may be a chance for friendship, but be honest, most people who are dating online are looking for a relationship, either a long term or a short term relationship, but less often for friendship. What are you looking for? What are they looking for? If you are looking for romance then forget about the idea of friendship. It generally doesn’t work.

Don’t break up in a public place. You don’t want people to be able to overhear your conversation and you surely don’t want to embarrass your date. Have a quiet word with them, gently explaining your reasons and let them have their say. Get everything out in the open and your break up should go smoothly.

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Online Dating | The First Date

When you finally decide to meet someone you’ve met online, you’ll want your first date to go really well. First dates can be difficult at the best of times as there are so many things that need taking into consideration. Online dating can often be more difficult due to high expectations. Your choice of a first date will depend on how much you’ll want to spend, whether you are going to go out during the day or at night, and what you both enjoy doing. Assuming you have communicated a little before meeting you should have a good idea of what the other person is interested in.

You might want to do something which is fairly inexpensive for your first date. This way you can each pay your own way and not feel uncomfortable about how much things are costing. Some first date ideas incude:

  • Going to the movies.
  • Having a picnic in a park.
  • Visiting a museum or art gallery.

Your choice will depend on your interests but these should make for a relaxed date without too much pressure. Something like going to a museum can also give you something to talk about if you feel a bit uncomfortable and don’t know what to say.

If you don’t mind spending a little more money then you might consider one of the following ideas:

  • Go to a concert.
  • Go out to dinner at a nice restaurant.
  • Got to the theatre.

Remember the first date is about getting to know each other a little better and seeing if there is enough chemistry between you to see if you want a second date. Don’t worry too much about how it goes. If it doesn’t work out you can always find someone else online who will take your interest.

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Online Dating | Great Profile Photos

A common question regarding online dating is what to wear for your online profile photo. People want to know what colour will get them the most attention. You will get noticed if you have a photo with your profile and people use this to make a quick judgement about you. You want to make sure you stand out and look your best. To do this, you should consider wearing certain colours which will get you the maximum amount of positive attention.

There is no getting away from the fact that appearances matter. This is the case in both the online and offline worlds. A good photo will increase your chances of having people contact you or reply to you. Wear something you feel comfortable in for your photo. If you wear something which isn’t ‘you’, then it will show through in the photo. Wear colours which are flattering for your skin tone and which make you feel attractive and confident.

The most popular colour choice is blue. Blue is associated with peace and tranquility. You’ll appear relaxed and easy going if you wear blue. Blue is also associated with trust and loyalty which is what you need when dating online.

Green is the second best choice after blue. Make sure you choose the right shade of green for your skin tone as otherwise you might look ill in the photo. Green is associated with wealth and confidence – important attributes when trying to make a good first impression.

Red is often equated with lust and sex. You may want to wear this colour if you are looking for a casual relationship but try to avoid it if you want something serious. Black is also considered to be very alluring and sensual but can also make you look a little slimmer. White and yellow are the least successful colours for a dating profile photo. These can make you look washed out and pale, depending on your skin tone, and might make you appear boring or depressive.

Of course, being comfortable and confident is the most important thing but it helps to be aware of how people may perceive you depending on the colour you are wearing.

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Online Dating Advice

For most people, the goal of online dating is to eventually go out on a face to face date with someone. A date with someone you have met online is usually quite different from one where you have met elsewhere. There are a number of tips you should keep in mind when dating someone you have never met before to ensure that the experience is a safe one. Of course, you can never be 100% safe with someone you barely know, or with someone you know quite well for that matter, but there are certain precautions everyone should take.

You’ll probably be nervous the first time you meet someone you have met online but the experience should be exciting too. As excited and as happy as you’ll be to finally meet face to face, it is prudent to remain a little guarded. Keep in mind that you have never met them before and as nice as they seemed in their emails, chat, and possibly telephone conversations, you won’t really know who they are until you spend a little time with them. Bear in mind also that they may have lied to you about certain things. Basically you should reserve judgement until you have gotten to know them more.

Top tips to make your date safe:

  • Don’t have them pick you up from your house. Do you really want this person knowing where you live if things don’t go well?
  • Don’t get in a car with them. This is clearly not a safe thing to do. Even if you get on well, don’t do it.
  • Arrange to meet in a public place. A restaurant or cafe is a good idea. This way there will be plenty of people around if you have a problem. If you decide to see a movie make sure it is at a popular time so you won’t be alone in the cinema.
  • Pay your share of the date. If you pay your own way you won’t feel like you have to return the favour later. Plus this should keep things on a friendly level.
  • Don’t meet up in a bar or nightclub or if you do be sure to limit the amount of alcohol you drink. The last thing you’ll want is impaired judgement when out with a stranger. If you do drink, be sure to keep you glass in your view at all times. It is not uncommon to have something slipped into your drink making you totally lose control.
  • Let someone know where you are going and who you are going with. Maybe have a friend call you during the date to make sure everything is going okay.

These tips are common sense but some people forget them when getting caught up in the thrill of meeting someone they have gotten along with so well online. Remember that not is always as it seems when you can’t read someone’s body language and look into their eyes. Be a little cautious and you should have a safe and fun date.

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