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A Great Online Profile

Everyone interested in online dating wants a great profile. Your profile is how you attract dates. They won’t bother to contact you if you they don’t see anything which interests them on your profile. On the other hand, if you mention you are interested in everything under the sun, then who knows who you’ll meet. They are unlikely to be ‘the one’. To have a positive dating experience, and a successful one, you need to get your profile right.

You can improve your dating profile and find more suitable dates by being more specific on your profile. State exactly what it is that you’re looking for. If you only want to date people who are younger than you then say so on your profile. If you only want to meet people who are interested in watching old black and white films then say so. It doesn’t matter what your criteria is, if it’s what you want then put in it your profile. You won’t offend anyone because if they’re not interested in what you are then they’ll just go on to the next profile. You don’t want to say you ‘want to meet new people’ because it is very vague and will attract many, many people (unless that’s what you want). How will you find your perfect match if you don’t talk specifics?

You might sound shallow on your online dating profile if you say you only want to meet people with a certain physical appearance. While this may be shallow, it’s no one’s business but yours. If that’s what you want then say so. There is no point in attracting lots of skinny women if you prefer curvy women. You are there to meet someone you like, not to be politically correct.

Always be respectful when meeting someone online (as you would when meeting offline). Communicating in a chat room or via email, when you don’t have body or eye contact, can be difficult. Something you meant as a joke could easily be taken the wrong way. Try to be extra polite and don’t get too friendly too quickly. Take things slowly and don’t take it all too seriously. You’re there to have a good time after all. If the person you meet doesn’t turn out to be how you’d hoped, don’t worry. Just get right back on the horse and try again.

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Top Tips For The Chat Room

Online dating is an easy way to meet new people. It’s fun, non-threatening, and hassle free. I know I’d rather meet people online than go to some noisy, smokey bar, where everyone is drinking and not much else.

Meeting people online is more than just finding someone of interest and contacting them. If you want to eventually meet in person, you’ll have to get to know them a bit first. One way to do that is by chatting to people in chat rooms. Chatting to someone new can be exciting. You can get enough details about them to know if you want to meet in the real world or not. You can divulge as much or as little about yourself. You don’t have to feel shy or worry about what they think about you. At that point they don’t know too much so you can be confident and just enjoy the experience. It’s easier to make a good impression by chatting in a chat room because you have time to think about what you want to say. Plus you don’t have to worry about what you are wearing and how you look. You could be in your pyjamas and they’d never know.

You do need to be aware of your behaviour in the chat room. You don’t want to give too much information about yourself as you may not want to meet them. You need to be careful to make sure you meet the right kind of person in the real world. You don’t want to meet just anyone. You need to make a safe choice.

You should look to protect your identity at all times. If you give them your email address, make sure it’s a nondescript address which they can’t link to your real name. A Gmail or Hotmail account is best. Set up an account especially for your online dates. If you are going to put personal information in your profile (which is a good idea if you are serious about meeting someone) make sure that information is vague enough that they can’t work out where you live or work. Include your age, gender, and interests but not where you live.

Obviously you want to be honest in your profile and when chatting with people on dating sites. If you lie then your date will be disappointed when you meet and it’s unlikely they’ll want to see you again. You expect honestly from others so be honest yourself. Just keep personal information which can identify you to a minimum.

Don’t get your hopes up when chatting to people online. You have no idea what they are really like and always keep in mind that they may be lying to you. Don’t arrange to meet someone after chatting with them only one time. Chat a few times to get a good idea how sincere they are and that there is really potential for the kind of relationship you are interested in. If you exchange photos, make it a recent photo so your date will know what to expect. Again, honestly is the best policy when chatting online but remember that not all people are as honest as you are.

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Don’t Lie in Your Profile

Lying on your online dating profile isn’t going to get you anywhere. As soon as you meet your date they will figure out that you lied and you’ll never see them again. This is especially the case if you lied about your appearance but also if you lied about your interests. They will soon discover that you are not who you said you were and that’ll be the end of it. Even if you do manage to continue the lie for a while, what purpose does that serve? Do you feel better about yourself because you got a date? You’re just wasting the person’s time and when they find out they are likely to be furious.

Why would you want to lie anyway? If you say you like to listen to popular music when you really like classical music just because you think that is what people want to hear then you’re doing yourself a disservice. Wouldn’t you rather find someone who shares your interests so you can enjoy these things together?

Most people agree that lying on your dating profile is not a good thing:

Lies are always good for the short term and bad for the long term. Singles need to hold themselves to a higher standard of integrity. I advise anyone who goes on a date and finds themselves in front of a liar to immediately excuse themselves from that date. “Sorry, I’m not comfortable continuing with this date because you lied to me. It was a pleasure meeting you however. Thanks, bye.”  This should include lies about age, weight, pictures which are significantly inaccurate/photo shopped.  Lies are the BANE of this industry. A huge detriment. I highly, highly recommend site owners to advise their users to represent themselves in their best possible light within the realms of complete honesty. 

One of the reasons services like Great Expectations and The Right One are doing well, and charging thousands of dollars, is because their clients expect to see truthful profiles and know, truly, who they are meeting before their first date. Less surprises, means more value to clients.  Higher integrity leads to higher profits…in the long run.

So even if your dating profile contains a few white lies then change it now and be completely honest. Don’t waste people’s time. Don’t hurt people over something so silly. Here are a few tips on writing your dating profile.

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Online Dating | To Do Or Not To Do

First dates are often a little stressful, especially when online dating.. You generally don’t know the person very well so you may be apprehensive as to whether or not you’ll get along, what to talk about, their impression of you etc. This is the case for a date set up both offline and online. The problem is, if you don’t make a good first impression, even if it’s due to being too shy or insecure, then you may not get a second date and the chance to show your real self. This can be really hurtful, especially if you really liked the person. So you have to make a good first impression. With a little thought and planning, and sometimes practice, everything should go fine on your fist online date.

Make your date feel comfortable.

Remember that you are both there to have a good time. You don’t have ‘perform’ and be funny or cute. Just be yourself. If you are comfortable and natural then your date is likely to feel at ease. Obviously you want to try to be interesting with the stories you tell and you should think a little about what you are going to say in advance, but you don’t want to sound rehearsed. Be flexible and listed to the response and comments of your date. You don’t want to sit there with nothing to say so think of a few funny anecdotes which you can recount or other things you can talk about such as events you are been to or would like to go to. Another way to make your date feel comfortable is to listen carefully to what they are saying and to ask relevant questions. Be sincere though, don’t ask questions if you are really not interested, instead ask them about something else.

Keep in mind your date may be nervous too.

Don’t be so self absorbed that all you can think about is how you are doing, do they like you, should you have said that etc. Think about how they are feeling. They are most likely just as, if not more nervous than you, especially if they are shy or if this is their first online date. Try to be aware of how they feel and do your best to comfort them if they appear anxious, although you don’t want to bring attention to their shyness or nervousness as that could just make them feel worse. Hopefully you won’t have to work too hard during the date and the conversation will flow naturally but be prepared anyway. You have obviously had some contact already as you took interest in each others profile so you should be able to chat about something.

Plan to do something.

Rather than go on a date where you just sit and talk, which can be difficult for shy people on a first date, try to do something fun. A first date doesn’t have to be dinner or a movie. There are many other things you can do. If you are interested in art you may want to go to an art gallery. This way you can talk about the art  if you run out of things to say. It may seem a little retro but you could go bowling. The game will take your mind off any awkward pauses. If you both like a particular band you could go see them live. You could then talk about the concert after the date. First dates don’t have to intimidating or stressful, even with online dating. There is obviously something you like about each other so focus on that.

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The Perfect Profile Header

Many online dating websites require (or encourage) you to write a short profile which is shown alongside your username when people are searching for someone to meet. It is a short description of you which acts as a teaser to get people to click on your link to read your full profile and hopefully to contact you.

Your profile short description (or header) is very important if you want to be successful on online dating ie. if you want people to contact you. If your profile header isn’t very descriptive or interesting then few people will contact you. You may have written a great profile but if your short profile isn’t up to scratch then no one will find out more about you.

To encourage people to click on your profile, and to find out more about you, you need to write a profile header which gets immediate attention. The best profile headers tend to be either:

  • funny
  • cute
  • clever
  • philosophical

Of course, you want to be honest otherwise they’ll be disappointed when reading your full profile or after contacting you and determining that you are not who you suggested you were.

To get the most responses to your profile header line, you should avoid using the same text as what hundreds of other users have. You need to be original to stand out from the crowd. Do you own search and see what others write. Many look the same don’t they? Take note of what most people are doing and do the opposite. Or if that is too hard, find some profile headers which you like and put your own slant on it. Change a few words, personalise it to make it describe you. Take four or five of the best profile headers and combine them to make the perfect profile header for yourself.

Change your profile short description every now and then to get more responses. People who previously overlooked your profile may then take an interest. Test different headers to see which convert the best. Try a different angle to attract a different kind of person. Changing your photo can also help. Keep trying and testing and you’ll eventually get so many responses you won’t know what to do with them all.

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Creating An Online Dating Profile

There is a lot of competition when it comes to online dating so you’ve got to do as much as you can to make a great first impression. That first impression is made with a great dating profile. Some people do lie in their profile but that won’t get you anywhere in the long term. It is important to be honest in your profile as well as with the photo you include. The photo must be of you and make sure was taken recently. If you give false information you will only be wasting your time as well of that of your date.

When creating your online dating profile be sure to:

  • be honest
  • give plenty of details
  • avoid being negative
  • try to be unique

If you are serious about meeting someone online then you should be honest and sincere. Giving plenty of details about yourself will ensure that only people with a real interest will contact you. People are more likely to contact you if you have given details about who you are, rather than if you write something vague or very general, because they will know if they will have something in common with you. It makes you more approachable.

Being negative isn’t likely to attract anyone. When you talk about your job and life, try to put everything in a positive light (without lying). Show that you are enthusiastic about your work or hobbies, about life in general. Do this by writing about what you love, your passions, and your dreams. If you don’t have a great job, don’t write about how much you hate it but about what you would rather be doing. If your profile is upbeat and you write about your successes then you will most likely get replies from people who are also upbeat and successful.

You may not believe that you are unique but you are and that can easily be demonstrated by your profile. Don’t just say you like listening to music and going to the movies. Be specific. Mention not only the kind of music you listen to but which artists as well as if you like to see them live or if you only listen to music in your car or walking with your iPod. The same goes for if you like watching movies. Do you watch on TV or do you rent DVDs or do you go to the movie theatre near your house? Who is your favourite actor? Do you prefer art house cinema? There are so many things you can say to show who you really are. Another example is if you love tennis. Do you watch or play? Do you prefer the men’s or women’s game? Singles or doubles? Have you been to a tournament or simply watch on TV? There is a lot you can write about and the more you write the more likely it is you’ll find someone with things in common.

Another point about writing a great dating profile is that it can take time. If you’re not getting responses or the responses you want then try changing a few things. In time, you will present yourself in the right way which attracts the right people.

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Online Dating Tips For Men

Online dating can be difficult for both men and women but it seems to be especially difficult for men. Men need to be aware of how they present themselves if they approach a woman online. The first impression you give is extremely important as you rarely get a second chance in the online dating world.

It sounds strange but there are two first impressions involved with online dating. Firstly when you introduce yourself online and then if that goes well and you meet in person your date will make another impression of you. Both risk failure as most people are very quick to judge others, especially when dating. However if you get past the first stage there are certain things you can do to improve your chances of a successful first date.

Before you head off for your first date you might want to spend a little extra time making sure your look presentable. You want your date to see you at your best so make sure you shave, wash your hair, put on a little aftershave (not too much), and wear clean, ironed clothes. Women will appreciate that you have gone to at least some trouble for her. If you have already got along online then your date is obviously interested in you but if you turn up looking like you don’t care then she probably won’t either.

To get your date off to a good start be sure to arrive on time. This shows you are interested, considerate, reliable, and polite. Don’t ignore how important this is. Your date will be particularly unimpressed if she is waiting alone for you in a public place. Try to arrive a little bit early so you are waiting for her. This way when you greet her on her arrival she will be placed at ease; firstly that she hasn’t been stood up and secondly that she doesn’t have to sit alone to wait for you.

Women love to be treated well, who doesn’t really, but you may be wondering exactly what that means. While every woman is different there are certain things which she is likely to appreciate. Firstly consider taking a small gift. Maybe flowers or a small box of chocolates. Don’t laugh, it works. Then be sure to always put her first when you are out. Make sure you hold doors open for her let her order first if you are eating out, let her choose the movie if you are seeing one. All of these are about creating a good impression but don’t go overboard, you want it to seem natural, to be natural, and to be sincere.

When you spend time with your date, be sure to listen to what she has to say. Don’t spend the whole time talking about yourself. Of course she will want to know more about you too, just make sure one person doesn’t dominate the conversation. The goal is to find out more about each other to see if you have enough in common and if there is enough physical attraction to want to go on a second date.

Most importantly you should be honest with your date. If you lie to her or try to be someone you’re not she will eventually find out anyway. You will be wasting both her time and your own if you’re not honest. This applies to when you leave your date as well. Don’t promise to call if that isn’t your intention. It’s better to say that you don’t feel you’re right for each, thank her for her time and leave on good terms. If you did have a good time then tell her that and then call her the next day to make your next date.

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